Professionally and personally, I have recently become tired of seeing misleading advice on how to deal with so-called “avoidant personalities”? The terms “avoidant attachment” and “avoidant personality disorder” are often used interchangeably, especially on the popular Chinese social media, “REDNote (xiaohongshu),” but they represent distinct psychological concepts. In this post, we’ll explore the differences betweenContinue reading “Avoidant Attachment vs. Avoidant Personality Disorder: What’s the Difference?”
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Predictors of Divorce: Gottman’s Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
I see quite a few couples in my practice. From those who come seeking premarital counselling to those whose relationships have become shaken by distress bombs such as infidelity, children, finances, illnesses, or other stressors. Couples I can see having strong bonds share healthy characteristics in their communication patterns and passionate love for each other;Continue reading “Predictors of Divorce: Gottman’s Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”
Exploring Sexual Style with Sensate Focusing
Sexual expression is a natural and essential aspect of human relationships, yet every individual has their unique sexual style and preferences that contribute to the overall experience. Sexual style can include a wide range of sexual behaviours, expressions, fantasies, and attitudes towards intimacy, which can impact sexual satisfaction and relationship quality (DeLamater & Koepsei, 2015).Continue reading “Exploring Sexual Style with Sensate Focusing”
Interview with Fit for Joy: “Defining Life, Love, and Happiness: Insights from a Psychotherapist”
2022 has been indeed a busy year for me with school, work, busy school, full-time work, endless school, and nonstop work – did I mention school AND work? Anyway, between the barrage of school and work life, I was able to do another interview, this time with Valeria Teles, creator of Fit for Joy IContinue reading “Interview with Fit for Joy: “Defining Life, Love, and Happiness: Insights from a Psychotherapist””
How to Cope with First-Date Anxiety Part II (expanding on my Interview with Georgia Straight with a clinical twist)
The first of July came and went along with the intense heat wave that had baked the West Coast. Although I am sure that the fiery inferno made many sullen, suffering hobbits happy at last to have been able to cut their trips short by finding Mount Doom on the nearest mountain or hill, itContinue reading “How to Cope with First-Date Anxiety Part II (expanding on my Interview with Georgia Straight with a clinical twist)”
How to Cope with First-Date Anxiety Part I (expanding on my Interview with Georgia Straight with a clinical twist)
First dates can be scary. I know, because I’ve been there with you – in therapeutic spirit, of course! – on your first dates or at least soon after when you report to me every juicy detail of your encounter in either complete exhilaration or utter demoralization. During the height of the pandemic, making aContinue reading “How to Cope with First-Date Anxiety Part I (expanding on my Interview with Georgia Straight with a clinical twist)”